Comments on: Biggest Struggle? http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/ Ideas and stuff from the blog of Kyle Gilbert Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:11:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Betty http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1501 Betty Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:43:22 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1501 Yes, I recommend the book. Correcting myself: Five Love Languages by Chapman (not Six as I wrote yesterday). Yes, I recommend the book. Correcting myself: Five Love Languages by Chapman (not Six as I wrote yesterday).

]]> By: Kyle http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1493 Kyle Thu, 01 Oct 2009 04:54:51 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1493 Paulette, it's good to hear from you! Thanks for the comment and the encouragement! I hope you and your kids are doing well. Betty - No, I haven't read that book. Is is good, and would your recommend it? Really appreciate your well wishes. Paulette, it’s good to hear from you! Thanks for the comment and the encouragement! I hope you and your kids are doing well.

Betty – No, I haven’t read that book. Is is good, and would your recommend it? Really appreciate your well wishes.

]]> By: Betty http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1492 Betty Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:19:11 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1492 Have you read the Six Languages of Love? Praying both of your emotional tanks will be overflowing. Have you read the Six Languages of Love? Praying both of your emotional tanks will be overflowing.

]]> By: paulette http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1488 paulette Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:09:41 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1488 Thank-you for your honesty, it takes allot to admit our faults but in doing so God tells us very clearly that he will set us free. If more Godly Christians would admit their faults instead of coming across as perfect we would have more people who struggle come into our churches. Who wants to go to a perfect church? I want to be a part of a church who is forgiving, and can admit they are not perfect, for no one is! Thank-you for your honesty, it takes allot to admit our faults but in doing so God tells us very clearly that he will set us free. If more Godly Christians would admit their faults instead of coming across as perfect we would have more people who struggle come into our churches. Who wants to go to a perfect church?
I want to be a part of a church who is forgiving, and can admit they are not perfect, for no one is!

]]> By: Kyle http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1486 Kyle Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:56:17 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1486 Julio & Eric, thanks for the comments. Always glad to know that I'm not alone in this. Julio just stopped by my office, and he and I were talking about this some more. Eric, I think you're absolutely right about being proactive with this. For years I've tried to be less critical, but it's never helped much. Instead, I have to task myself with the job of being an encourager to my wife and family. Eric, that's really cool to hear how its made a positive impact on your family. I hope that I'll look back a year from now and see the same kind of results. Julio & Eric, thanks for the comments. Always glad to know that I’m not alone in this.

Julio just stopped by my office, and he and I were talking about this some more. Eric, I think you’re absolutely right about being proactive with this. For years I’ve tried to be less critical, but it’s never helped much. Instead, I have to task myself with the job of being an encourager to my wife and family.

Eric, that’s really cool to hear how its made a positive impact on your family. I hope that I’ll look back a year from now and see the same kind of results.

]]> By: Eric http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1484 Eric Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:11:01 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1484 In his book about marketing (Lovemarks) Kevin Roberts spends a lot of time talking about the difference between reason and emotion. As he points out, we often forget that "Human beings are powered by emotion, not by reason." He follows this up with a quote from neurologist Donald Calne who says "The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusion." As analytical thinkers, we often forget the power of emotion, and the need to distribute positive emotional energy (through kind words, tone of voice, face and hand gestures, song, colors, etc). I sometimes try to make a list of all the immediate family members and promise myself to say three positive to each of them during the day. It is not as easy as it sounds--but on days I complete my ENCOURAGING TO DO LIST I find that there is a much higher level of harmony within my family, and within myself. God is love. In his book about marketing (Lovemarks) Kevin Roberts spends a lot of time talking about the difference between reason and emotion. As he points out, we often forget that “Human beings are powered by emotion, not by reason.” He follows this up with a quote from neurologist Donald Calne who says “The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusion.”

As analytical thinkers, we often forget the power of emotion, and the need to distribute positive emotional energy (through kind words, tone of voice, face and hand gestures, song, colors, etc). I sometimes try to make a list of all the immediate family members and promise myself to say three positive to each of them during the day. It is not as easy as it sounds–but on days I complete my ENCOURAGING TO DO LIST I find that there is a much higher level of harmony within my family, and within myself. God is love.

]]> By: Julio Culiat http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1483 Julio Culiat Tue, 29 Sep 2009 14:54:47 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1483 I am by nature a mechanic, always looking and fixing. I've trained under German priests and teachers to do it. I am very good at it. My senses trained to hear, smell, feel and see what can be improved. I even have a "sense" as to predict what will happen to a machine even BEFORE it breaks down. See it, analyse it, fix it, go to the next project. Trouble is, I apply this with my poor wife and child. It may be an efficient way to run a home but there isn't any love involved. My wife has always told me about it and one day, my eleven-year-old called me on it. "Dad, you always see the bad things but you never tell me anything if I do well." Ouch. I stopped and I cried. I am with you Pastor Kyle. From a theological standpoint, Romans 8 is my favorite. From a personal standpoint, however, I am sure glad there is Romans 7. I'll be praying for both of us. I am by nature a mechanic, always looking and fixing. I’ve trained under German priests and teachers to do it. I am very good at it. My senses trained to hear, smell, feel and see what can be improved. I even have a “sense” as to predict what will happen to a machine even BEFORE it breaks down. See it, analyse it, fix it, go to the next project. Trouble is, I apply this with my poor wife and child. It may be an efficient way to run a home but there isn’t any love involved. My wife has always told me about it and one day, my eleven-year-old called me on it. “Dad, you always see the bad things but you never tell me anything if I do well.” Ouch. I stopped and I cried. I am with you Pastor Kyle. From a theological standpoint, Romans 8 is my favorite. From a personal standpoint, however, I am sure glad there is Romans 7. I’ll be praying for both of us.

]]> By: Keri http://kylesrandom.com/2009/09/biggest-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1481 Keri Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:25:36 +0000 http://www.kylesrandom.com/?p=1561#comment-1481 You are so dear to me. Thank you for always striving to be the best husband you can be:) And thanks for putting up with MY dark side:) You are so dear to me. Thank you for always striving to be the best husband you can be:) And thanks for putting up with MY dark side:)

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